Edition#42: Teaching vs. Coaching, External Views, Daily Problems

Tips To Perform Better

1. Starting something new or returning to something old requires a small change that the brain can quickly learn from and repeat. We should break down our desires into daily behaviours. For example, a powerlifter new to the sport may plan to deadlift 250kg, but they cannot achieve this unless they steadily increase their weights over time.

We typically use motivation and willpower to keep ourselves going. But they only last for so long. The small, daily behaviours last a lifetime, and we should aim to connect them with a lifestyle that promotes these behaviours.

2. The excuses we make are the generator of clouded thoughts. From what feels like a failure to set goals, the problem is our ability to focus. For us to have clear ideas during the goal selection process, we must prioritise and eliminate the problem.

Do you want to wake up earlier? Eliminate going to bed at a later time. 

Do you want to exercise more? Remove unhealthy foods so you become wellness focused

You you want to write more? Take away mindless activities and set a time block.

Some Words To Consider

1. Traditional teaching provides us the opportunity to develop skills, often in an ineffective manner. Coaching on the other hand, provides an open ended process that analyses your current skillset and performance, then works to exploit your full potential. It’s more likely a coach will turn into a mentor than a teacher would due to a coaches willingness to continue sharing your journey. 

2. When we accept external views, we listen to others who tell us we’re great or awful at something. That validation leads to minimal results because we’re too focused on the expectations others have of us. But when we listen to our internal dialogue, we put ourselves in a much more rewarding position to grow, learn and achieve what we set out to do. The most important conversation should be what we say to ourselves, about ourselves, while we’re alone

Quotes To Listen To

Author Stephen R. Covey on our priorities:

“The key is to not prioritise your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.

Author Robert Greene on our daily problems:

“You choose to let things bother you. You can just as easily choose not to notice the irritating offender, to consider the matter trivial and unworthy of your interest. That is the powerful move. What you do not react to, cannot drag you down in a futile engagement. Your pride is not involved. The best lesson you can teach an irritating gnat is to consign it to oblivion by ignoring it.”

Source: 48 Laws of Power